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If I’m being honest, I’ve been having a hard time with World Breastfeeding Week.

Seeing all the beautiful pictures of celebs breastfeeding their children and reading about how amazing breastfeeding is and what a bond the mother shares with the baby was hard for a formula feeding mom like myself.

It’s made me feel like I’m missing out on some quintessential piece of motherhood.

But then I realize, I would love my son all the same, not more or less, based on how or what I feed him. It’s the fact that I am able to feed him and hold him and love him that matters. The rest is just my pride and other people’s judgement. Both of which, my son is unable to notice.

Love is the quintessential piece of motherhood. Nothing else.

amiracle4us SAID: IT’S THE FEELINGS OF THOSE MEMORIES THAT LINGER AND THOSE FEELINGS (AND UNREMEMBERED MEMORIES) THAT SHAPE HIS AND OUR FUTURES.

That is beautiful M — I love that!

Yesterday after spending some Mommy/James time at the pool together, we went upstairs to wash up and get ready for bed.  While I sat on the other side of the tub, I watched him play with his toys, and I looked (I mean, really looked) at my big boy and then just began to cry.. 
This sweet face that looks at me with so much love in his eyes, the snuggles he gives me when he’s scared or sad, these sweet moments of playtime with each other, the smile on his face when I come to pick him up from school… will he remember those moments as well as I will?  Or will I have to remind him when he’s older of what he was like when he was just a little boy?
Will the moments that we are creating now.. will any of them sink in his memory forever like they will with me?  
I read that young children DO form memories but that they fade over time.  Most adults can’t remember anything before age the age of three or four.  And I think that’s true.. it’s hard for me to recall anything at all from when I was James’ age and it simply broke my heart to think that he will one day forget all the beautiful moments he and I have shared so far together and as a family.
I suppose that if only one of us has the power to remember these things I’m so thankful it’s me.  I’ll just have to do my best to recognize those moments when they happen, capture them, and bottle them up so that I can tell him all about it when he’s older and hope that some of it will stick.

Yesterday after spending some Mommy/James time at the pool together, we went upstairs to wash up and get ready for bed.  While I sat on the other side of the tub, I watched him play with his toys, and I looked (I mean, really looked) at my big boy and then just began to cry.. 

This sweet face that looks at me with so much love in his eyes, the snuggles he gives me when he’s scared or sad, these sweet moments of playtime with each other, the smile on his face when I come to pick him up from school… will he remember those moments as well as I will?  Or will I have to remind him when he’s older of what he was like when he was just a little boy?

Will the moments that we are creating now.. will any of them sink in his memory forever like they will with me?  

I read that young children DO form memories but that they fade over time.  Most adults can’t remember anything before age the age of three or four.  And I think that’s true.. it’s hard for me to recall anything at all from when I was James’ age and it simply broke my heart to think that he will one day forget all the beautiful moments he and I have shared so far together and as a family.

I suppose that if only one of us has the power to remember these things I’m so thankful it’s me.  I’ll just have to do my best to recognize those moments when they happen, capture them, and bottle them up so that I can tell him all about it when he’s older and hope that some of it will stick.

Do you still exclusively pump? I searched the tag & came across your blog. My daughter was born early so I've been pumping only and trying to EBF that way. I'm worried eventually I'll have to use formula

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labellavitala

Hey there! I exclusively pumped for 6 months, but I don’t anymore.  My son is 2 years old now, but I’m expecting our 2nd boy in a month.  I’m hoping that i’ll be able to breastfeed this go round, but if not, i’ll try to exclusively pump again if it’s possible (with a toddler in tow)..  

My advice would be to stick to a regular schedule and to try taking fenugreek, it helped me increase my supply a lot (but once you stop taking it, it may decrease again).  Exclusively pumping is no joke.. it’s really really hard and there were times I felt like giving up but I was able to do it until my son was 6 months. 

How old is your daughter?  Hang in there, and don’t feel bad if you have to supplement with formula for a few days to increase your supply —  or if you have to use formula all together.  Yes, they say breastmilk is best, but so is a mother’s sanity ;)  and formula is actually very good these days, expensive.. but good :)

This site is also really really helpful: 

http://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/exclusive-pumping/

Let me know if you have any questions!

Jenn :)

Interesting article and I can understand and appreciate the point, but geeze now I’m not doing this right either???

Being a parent these days is tough stuff.

Information overload = stressful momma.